Bright guys remember a grudge even if we forget everything else.
I worked for a guy 32 years ago who I regarded from Day Two (I gave him a day) as among the most reprehensible and manipulative human beings I’ve ever met. I met worse thereafter, but he was the first of the worst, and he’s hard to forget that reason alone.
I know the stuff he did because I was his personal assistant. I saw the forged memoranda. I saw and also was a victim of the head games. I remember everything about this bastard except writing about him in a blog.
Yesterday I got a certified letter from an attorney in New York–basically a Cease & Desist sort of thing. I apparently had, in a blog, actually slandered this man, and unless I removed the offensive material, the offended party would check out his legal remedies.
Since when did the truth become slander?
There are several weird parts to this.
I took that blog down, obliterated it, on November 13, 2007. I’m only hearing about this now? Bad news travels by oxcart.
I didn’t even remember the posting. Probably a slur with some barbs in it. And the gentleman took offense, 32+ years later. He felt damaged more than a quarter century down the road. Incredible.
What does it say about this individual that he could find anything written about him by a former employee worth the aggravation, not to mention getting a lawyer? How could someone like me do material damage to a man well over 70 years of age who, as the lawyer claims, has a major resume and successful career? I have neither: and yet he regards himself as my target rather than the other way around.
I’m reminded of precisely why I would have done anything to get away from him: he was a manipulator and champion grudge-holder. So am I. Why else would I have written what I wrote after 30 years?